Thank you for your comment and question. On one level, I’m completely in agreement with you. On another, the nature of my work and this article is not concerned with the comfort or discomfort of men, but with the oppression and control of women through violence. I feel language that I’m addressing in this article utilizes an approach to gender-based violence that perpetuates aspects of classism, and by association racism, that directly contribute to that control. Your comment is a really important one, and with your permission I’d like to use it as a jumping off point for a deeper essay/discussion about this for next week’s article. Just let me know if you’re ok with that.